Signs of a Bad Relationship

Signs of a bad relationship aren't always as crystal clear as you would expect. Often times they mimic signs of a controlling relationship but not always. A relationship doesn't have to be controlling or abusive for it to be bad. In a nut shell, areas in your partnership that you want to work on and your partner doesn't are red flags.

Don’t write your love off completely though. We know that many bad relationships can be fixed if you both realize there's a problem and you are both committed to improving things together.

Signs of a bad relationship that can be fixed with a little effort:

• Not spending enough time together.

This problem can be solved by simply getting together with you calendars and scheduling dates. If all you can manage is an hour for lunch in the park, take it! Now do your part for romance and take a look at our Food Ideas for a Picnic. They're sure to help!

• Not talking about what's really on your mind.

If you don't air your complaints they begin to fester and become much bigger than when they started. The Trap Him Gals don't suggest that you sit down and scream at your man, that's a one-way ticket to signs of bad relationship. We advise a calm, non-heated sharing of grievances. Just be prepared to get as good as you give.

• Arguing all the time.

Letting your relationship fall into a pattern of constant fighting is the death kiss of a good union. Try this experiment. Every time you fight with your mate, put a twenty dollar bill in a piggy bank. If by the end of the week you have a hundred bucks in the bank, use it to get some couples counseling. Although, having to shell out a twenty (gulp) every time you argue should certainly inhibit the number of battles you start.

• Not taking time for romance.

Repeat after us, beer and pretzels in front of the ball game isn't romance. Neither is a quickie between television programs. Candle light, soft music, a champagne cocktail (link), and a bubble bath for two... now that's romance.

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• Not bothering to look good for one another.

Ah amour! What happened to those high heels and slinky dresses you strapped on when courting? The Trap Him gals understand that in the hurly burly of life, nice cloths often get replaced by sweats and flannel pajamas, which is why you must make an effort to occasionally look nice for your mate. Try getting dolled up once a week (at least!) the way you used to when you first got together and see if that doesn't create a new spark.

You should now be able to spot some of the signs of a bad relationship. If you take our tips to heart, we guarantee that most normal men will appreciate your efforts. If they don't, check out our Signs of a Controlling Relationship and start making alternate plans for the rest of your life.

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